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Post by Mare on Sept 4, 2021 1:25:56 GMT
My daughter sent me an image of some kind of Fernando Valenzuela display in his Dodger uniform. I immediately sent back Are you at Dodger Stadium? She sent back the answer that she was (Yep at a concert.) Then she sent me a selfie of her cousin and herself. To that, I shot back...Who are you seeing? Where are your masks? No answer. I had to look it up online myself. Green Day, Fall Out Boy, Weezer. I remember when I bought her, at her request and since it had a parental warning on it, a Dookie CD when she was nine. I told her she can listen, but not sing the rude words. Was I a good mom? Maybe not, but I think that was pretty cool of me and reasonable, too. She'd probably heard worse from her father, was my line of thinking. I was just glad it wasn't another Mariah Carey album. Shudder.
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Post by bluedemon25 on Sept 4, 2021 1:47:41 GMT
I'd say a cool and reasonable mom.
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Post by Mare on Sept 4, 2021 1:58:16 GMT
Thanks, Bluey.
Some times, I don't feel like I have been such a great mom-especially by today's standards.
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Post by bluedemon25 on Sept 4, 2021 2:02:15 GMT
I feel like some of today's standards are ridiculous and asinine. If I have a human child they will not be getting a tablet and cell phone at 4 years old nor every gaming console the second it comes out. What I feel I've seen includes but is not limited to a ridiculous amount of competitive materialism. I know this existed in some form always, but I think the obsession of social media made it worse. I'm glad I didnt grow up with that. We played video games but also ran around outside with imagination and explored. Etc, I think you know what I mean.
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Post by donavan on Sept 4, 2021 4:25:39 GMT
If I have a human child... What other type is there?
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Post by miles on Sept 5, 2021 0:30:09 GMT
If I have a human child... What other type is there? A theoretical one?
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Post by donavan on Sept 5, 2021 1:40:05 GMT
Nah.
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Post by Mare on Sept 5, 2021 17:00:23 GMT
If I have a human child... What other type is there? Fur Babies...Fur Babies are babies, too. Just ask any Parent without the Human Baby kind. They have a great depth of love and caring for their Fur Babies, which give and accept love, too. It is not just because Parents of Fur Babies are the resource for food and shelter, there is a special bond and I have observed that exchange of emotion.
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Post by bluedemon25 on Sept 5, 2021 18:05:37 GMT
At least someone understands. Ty Mare.
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Post by donavan on Sept 5, 2021 19:20:39 GMT
But you said a human child???
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Post by Mare on Sept 6, 2021 18:32:46 GMT
But you said a human child??? I read that and understood that he does not have a human baby, but has felt the closeness of love and friendship of a fur baby. They let you cuddle them, they talk to you, you can talk to them, they know when you are hurting or sad and snuggle up to you in a comforting way. For some people it is hard to believe, but you can love a pet. Pets can love you right back if you allow the relationship into your heart. I found out when my kids got mice for pets. Two sisters. I told them you can't love a pet, that you can only love other human beings. I learned that I was WRONG! I got very attached to those mice...my kids loved them very much. They didn't just play with them & clean their cage, they talked to them and when the kids were upset they gently petted the mice and held them. They lived to be about three years old. (Very long for feeder mice, I've been told.) One got tumors and started to bleed. We took her to the Vet and found out that she had lots of tumors, which were common in small mice. My kids were so worried about her. We went home, my son sat with Paws cupped in his hands. I went back to check on her a little bit later, and he said that she had died in his hands. My son made a sarcophagus (he was studying Ancient Egypt in junior high) and we had a little ceremony where we each told a happy memory of Pawsy. I was so upset about Paws passing and the emotions the kids and I went through, I couldn't stop crying and wound up getting a massive headache. I stayed home from work the next day. Maybe it brought up my Dad's passing or another loss for me that I hadn't fully dealt with but truly, I was saddened by her loss. A couple weeks later, her sister Squeekers also passed away. Once again, my son helped my daughter build a sarcophagus and we had a ceremony. The next day I went to work, but did a little crying in the bathroom, there.
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Post by donavan on Sept 6, 2021 19:24:22 GMT
I get that and I was only kidding around. But animals are not humans. Or am I missing something?
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Post by Mare on Sept 8, 2021 0:19:23 GMT
Maybe...maybe that while human babies and fur babies are not the same thing, those who haven't had human babies of their own can experience great love for the animals that they think of as their fur babies. Just because you haven't had your own human baby to love, it doesn't mean you aren't capable of great love.
Or maybe you see this perfectly and also realize how much people who adopt children can love them just as it they were their own offspring. Babies in the Universe are born in hospitals, bathtubs, hatcheries, labs, on the back porch or in the barn with or without pedigrees and they are loved.
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Post by donavan on Sept 8, 2021 4:07:13 GMT
Fur enough. Although the term 'fur babies' creeps me out a bit.
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Post by Mare on Sept 8, 2021 17:31:17 GMT
Fur enough. Although the term 'fur babies' creeps me out a bit. Some people dress their dogs up in clothes other than to keep them warm...that creeps me out. That is for the people, not the doggie. The fact that it has become an industry creeps me out, too. I know that some dogs benefit from wearing snug sweaters, though. It seems to reduce their anxiety. I applaud that!
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