Don, the above is what an actual compliment looks like. Thanks for a concrete thing.
This is how you respond: Thank you, Introvertigo. I enjoy making them and finding new ways to improve the forum. I've gotten some praise from other people I've shared just the banners with. The meme is woefully old now but it makes a good design template. If you remember back, the AV1 banner was actually the first one I used on the forum. Depending on your OS though that one may have repeated its ymage obnoxiously, it was only when I made the ES one that I realized I needed to make the space on the sides much longer so it didn't do that.
Don. What you made was a backhanded compliment. (Hint, actual compliments don't usually involve the phrase "we don't give a flying fuck") Maybe you didn't realize that it was hurtful that you failed to actually verbalize what exactly what you're thankful to me for but was quite able to tell me what you didn't like. And realize, that I actually tried to address your issues. clarifying why I thought my comments were pertinent, asking if you actually still had a problem with the red in the forum that I tried to fix, and reaffirmed that if you don't like one, I learned how to make it possible to switch.
Next I'm considering doing an almost completely White on Black Go2 theme that almost no one will like BUT, I know some people actually prefer.
Ned, you do seem to think in straight lines. Sometimes you have to navigate around my posts and language to get to what I'm saying. If you can't I will adjust my style when responding to you. I have done that in the past. But getting all hurt and telling me how to post is unnecessary. And a bit silly. But not that important, so it's all good as far as I'm concerned.
Yes Donovan, YOU being straightforward with ME is best. It's the only way I can deal with you so it'd be best you do the same. It may be an internet impression but there's no helping it, I honestly find your general attitude to be hostile towards me and long lost any ability to appreciate the way you poke and prod and complain and find the worst reaction or misunderstanding as some form of humor. My own sense of humor is almost nonexistent around you because I figure you would find as much hostility in my humor as I do with yours.
So I'm earnest here and avoid conflict. I've only posted in this thread once before because the one time I did I fell into a trap of my own making. The song is half joke and half earnest. It sounds like a brag that seems immodest but was also a true statement about "all I want to do is what I do well." If anyone else made a joke about the song being immodest I feel I could point out it is actually a song about loving yourself as you are. But with you, I knew it would come off as defensive. I didn't want to come off as unappreciative or defensive so I let it be.
In short, NO, I don't understand your "style" and find you incapable of realizing your attitude has any role in our conflicts. So yes, I take you seriously and take offense when you call my being hurt "silly" and any problems we have- that's "it's for you to deal with."
First I'm thinking in a straight line now it's sideways. . I'm not about to delete you because we don't get along. Do you enjoy interacting with the other people here or not? Enjoy their company!
We don't have to get along. We have so many ways to simply let it be.
I barely visit and separately we get along with everyone else.
1. Change your style like you said you would. That's all I meant- straightforward, just the minimum for communication. Treat me like a business associate or something. Someone you wouldn't say "I don't give a flying fuck" to. 2. Simply don't interact with me. I'm barely here, it should not be hard.
3. If that's too hard, click my name to open my profile. On the top right click the gear/settings drop down and choose "Block Member." Maybe I'll do the same with you. I could use a break from you too.
Do I have to be as horrible as you are being to get through to you? I don't know you and would never make a judgement on you through occasional internet interaction. All I know is I do not want to be overseen by you. So pull the plug, please. And no, not one person has come to my defence, so you win, keyboard warrior. Get on with it.
Do I have to be as horrible as you are being to get through to you? Do I have to be as nasty as you have been via PM (some years ago) for you to understand? I don't know you and would never make a judgement on you through occasional internet interaction. All I know is I do not want to be overseen by someone who is as petty and self obsessed as you. So pull the plug, please. And no, not one person has come to my defence, so you win, keyboard warrior. Get on with it.
And this is what he spat his dummy over -
I'm not being rude Ned. And you are a fine man for running a forum for so few. And I thank you for that. But we don't give a flying fuck about banners and colours, just keep that red away will ya. What we care about is our small community and how you make it happen. Not saying we can't tinker a bit. But seriously, thank you. You are appreciated.
Whoah there! I know I haven't been around here and have missed a lot recently, but this does seem to have got a bit out of proportion. Ned is the Father of this Forum, and for that we should all be and are grateful.
Don, to be fair is the one who has, at times, and with the help of a few others, kept this whole thing alive with lots of posting. Now some of what he says may not be to everyone's taste, and his humour ('humour') may be lost on some at times, but he's jolly well part of the furniture and shouldn't possibly leave.
Ned, I don't think don's "flying fuck" was meant as an insult, it was just his way of saying that in the great scheme of things (for him and perhaps others) what the place looks like is quite far down the list of the reasons to be here
I have no knowledge (or, probably) memory of bad blood between the two of you in the past, but please stop it, eh?